Thursday, June 09, 2005

Baby Goes Back

via obscure store (see sidebar): oh. my. god. The story is bad enough. The photos will never leave my memory.  It’s about time somebody put baby in the corner.

Why the hell do these people get the bank? And this is his/her/its *dream*. Day-am. Do you just KNOW what I would do with 1.5 million?
What. A. Waste.

That was quite a shocker for a Friday morning, the only thing I’ve stumbled over that comes close is this - a 50 something year old Peter Pan (sans diaper).

goodness.

okay… that is just seriously WRONG on so many levels…

wow...just wow

I would ask the above what is wrong on so many levels? But I fear I may be wasting my typed words.

ok let me step back and explain myself open minded view in another way.

So many people hide and conceal the fetish that makes them whole or at least feel complete in some shape or form. From the person who loves the smell of leather and wearing leather to say the person that sexually can only get off when the smell of leather is about.

Even if you think this person is wrong, it actually takes alot of guts to come into the open and know you will be laughed at.

I mean lets face it lifes short enough and if it helps this person float his own boat then cool.

All things being equal and all that jazz.

Just my 2 cents worth as you say:-)

Craig, you have taken the time to express empathy, which I respect, so I’ll tell you the first five things that I find upsetting about this. 
1.  He disclaims this as a sexual fetish - it’s a choice of lifestyle.  He’s celibate, but likes to eat tasteless mush and wet himself.  If he were getting off on it, I’d understand somewhat; it seems he just can’t face life otherwise, and I find that inexplicable and very sad.  But you could say that of transsexuals, too, to an extent, so:
2.  Highly unsanitary.  Training oneself into incontinence till you wind up with diaper rash?  The rash is nature’s clue to learn to control yourself.
3.  His “24/7” choice deprives him of most human contact because he’s too disturbing and often too smelly to deal with. Shopping, socializing - he can’t do it as himself, only as an infantile alter-ego that offends most people, who deride or avoid him. I consider that sad too. 
4.  He is wasting talents.  He’s articulate, musical, clearly has much to offer the world, but prefers to live in a crib and wet himself.  Sure, that’s his choice.  But I am always saddened when I see such wasted lives. 
5.  The weirdest thing for me is, he’s not acting as himself as a baby - he’s a baby girl.  He’s seeking not to play a role but to live as something he never was and never can be, an identity that is by definition a transient state on one’s way to personal autonomy.  He’s thrown away his own self so he can live an utter fantasy of abdicated responsibility. 

I would never say he has no right to do what he does.  But that same civil liberty vouchsafes to me the right to be disturbed by it to my deepest core, and to say so publically.  Given that, Craig, I do sincerely thank you for giving us the other side of these considerations.  I’m not persuaded, but I’m glad we can show both sides of the issue here at the ‘hut.

Dan,
Thanks for taken the time to say why you find this upsetting with regards to that person’s personal choice is something I respect and more over you took the time to answer in more depth.

Plus the fact Dan, I am also happy to see that comments on a post can lead into open discussion without ending in flames :-)

I hope it did not come across that I was having a go to your site and your views and how you’re allowed to express them or to people you know better than me.

Now I suppose it would be right for me to shed a bit more background light on my input from across the pond. 3 years ago there was an event called Kinky Copenhagen, funnily enough here in Copenhagen. This event was to show all the broad spectrums of what some would call the fetish life style.

It was an eye opener because I had considered myself very open minded coupled with the fact that I thought had seen all aspects of BDSM through the ranges of fetishism. At this event was or were also adult babies.

My reaction at that time was quite the same as yours.

A few months after the event I questioned my own negative thoughts on this I sought out as much information as I could to form either a clearer understanding of the matter or to actually stick to my guns and just say gross.

Because the adult baby is so depersonalized and objectified, even when they involve a partner it seems hard to grasp that this can be a sexual fetish.
And yes Dan he is getting off on the entire ensemble from the food to the diapers even to the diaper rash because part of this trip is the complete act of being a baby and thus babies don’t know when to change themselves.

From an outside point of view is seems such a complete waste and people cannot grasp the facts and so either reject it off hand or actually cause harm to these people. *happened in Holland a few years ago to a famous transvestite*

So do I understand the mind set; well I am a bit closer than I was before.
In the end it actually comes down to the fact I see so many people making snap calls without knowing all the facts and the knee jerk brigade as I call them just makes me even sadder.

Now before I drift off to somewhere, I should have given more of an explanation in my first comment.